1) Chapter 8 was all about dating. It started with how often we date. Then, it gave some reasons why. Next, it described the spectrum of dating. This included traditional, contemporary, and combinations of dating styles. Then, it talked about all different ways to meet others. The next topic was about choosing who to date. Then, why exactly we pick the people we do. Then differences among cultures were talked about next. An interesting section was next about how dating can be harmful. And last, it talked about why people break up and what the consequences of a break up can be like.
2) The first interesting thing I noticed was about how much money people spend on dating. A lot of the time people don’t really think about just how much it costs, but on page 204 the book said that there was $650 million spent just as a result of online dating. Another thing was how the book compared dating with trading and investments, and giving people “market values.” I thought this was a good way of simplifying the dating world, but people also have to keep in mind that it is actually much more complicated than this. Last, it was shocking to see how many young adolescents are victims of dating violence. Usually, people just think about adults being involved with this sort of thing, but the book listed statistics about dating violence for kids as young as 11 and 12.
3) One question that came to mind is sort of a common one about cyber-dating. Do people think that cyber-dating is a good way for some people who are very busy to meet new people? Or, is it too risky?
Natalie LaBarbera
I have a friend who is homosexual and he uses dating websites to find guys so in that way, it makes finding someone a lot easier but he has also told me some stories of dates gone wrong and how he's found some strange people online. So it's kind of a hit or miss type of situation.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Kazzandra on the whole hit or miss issue. I feel that it is a big risk factor because you never know who you may be talking to on the other end. That's why you must be careful because you may be talking to a stalker or even a killer. My friend from back home experienced a similar situation when he was cyber chatting. He thought it was a woman and it turned out to be a homosexual man. Good thing they never were able to meet in person.
ReplyDeleteI think experiences with online dating, much like those of 'regular' dating, are variable. There are examples of people meeting through a dating site and having a wonderful relationship. There are also stories of people who had known each other since childhood, or met in college, through a friend, etc.; as those whose significant others have harmed them (through abuse, murder, etc.) show, sometimes you really just don't know someone, even when you think you do. I think it just highlights the importance of keeping vigilant in all of your interactions with people. Online dating, like traditional dating, has its benefits, but you have to keep your wits about you.
ReplyDeleteI would argue that cyber dating is a great place to start dating. As Nicole said, there are worries of these horror stories that occurred due to the use of cyber dating, but those situations are simply outliers for the most part. Additionally, there is no real way to know that a "blind date" or similar face to face dating situations will not end in the same horrific fashion as these outliers of cyber dating did. The key to cyber dating, I feel, would be having a transition to the "real world." If the relationship stays in the internet for too long, it is doomed to fail. But, using this tool as a starting block to meet people if for whatever reason that aspect of dating is difficult for someone is an excellent source to use.
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