Thursday, September 29, 2011

Ch. 6: Love in Your Point of View

This Chapter explains love in many different ways. It explains it from a males perspective and a females perspective. It gives a lot of definitions of different types of love in which I never knew existed. Initially I believed that love was only love bust I did not know that it was different types. If you are having sex with multiple partners then you still are sharing love but its not our traditional form of love. That was just an example of a different kind of love. But what is love if it takes on many different identifications. Love is a key to survival and the first source you receive comes form the family. Love is also what holds a family together. Once you learn to love from your family then you learn to love yourself and others. I feel as though you cannot love someone else until you love yourself. When you love others, the others you love tend to be your friends and this creates a friendship. Love and Friendship share the same qualities which are; enjoyment, acceptance, trust, respect, mutual support, confiding, understanding, and honesty. Love adds three more qualities which is sexual desire, priority over other relationships, and caring to the point of great self-sacrifice.
Future romances and love affairs are influenced early in a persons childhood. Friendships are often influenced by childhood experiences and living conditions also. The environment in which a parent raises their child has an influence on what people or opposite sex that child maybe attracted to. Example: If a female is raised in a well-to-do neighborhood then that female will hold her friends and romantic partner to high standards because of her living status. But sometimes you can be attracted to a person for the wrong reasons and it's not love. The word that will describe this feeling is lust. I feel lust occurs when you want a person or thing for the wrong reason. Like when I see a female with a nice figure and pretty face I may want to, right then and there; have sex with her without knowing anything about her. That,s lust not love because me and this female will not be sharing the characteristics of love and friendship.
Love also comes in different styles according to Canadian sociologist John Lee. You have eros, mania, ludus, storage, agape, and pragma. Eros lovers tend to want to be identified with each other as totally possible. Mania lovers are characterized as having low self-esteem and usually very dependent. This is when jealousy and possessiveness occurs. Ludus lovers are those people that are basically scared of commitment and this results in multiple sexual partners at one time. Storge love develops over the course of the relationship that makes the relationship bond strong and adhesive. Agape lovers tend to be patient. A great example would be a Mob wife because they will sit and wait on their significant other or husband for about five years.

There are many more definitions and categories that fall under love and if I explain then I will be typing all day but I have some questions that I want answered by classmates instead of the answers from the book.

Questions:
1) Are men or women more romantic?
2) Are men or women more intimate?
3) Are men or women more jealous?
4) Do you consider a male/female having multiple partners a type of love?

2 comments:

  1. Concerning your question on are men or women more jealous? I would say that it is equal. It depends on the type of relationship they are having, how it originated, and of course what type of people are they? If they were genuinely jealous people before they got into the relationship, they would surely be one if not more jealous in the relationship.

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  2. I would think that men and women are about equally romantic, but I sort of want to argue that men are more romantic because of the fact that they are supposed to initiate everything. They usually initiate dates and have to be romantic to "woo" the girl. A lot of pressure falls on the guy on days like Valentine's Day and other important days to plan charming and thoughtful things so that his girlfriend has the best time. Sure it's the girls turn to also be romantic on some occasions, but I think that since men are supposed to lead relationships, they do more things that are romantic.

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