Summary
There are so many different ways to love someone, including you. The chapter explains the ways to express your love and the many characteristics of love. Love stems from friendships and healthy relationships grow if each partner is respectful, trustworthy, honest, and is supportive of one another. Love can be attained and maintained with the appropriate amount of passion, intimacy, and commitment. Love can be categorized into six styles that vary in intensity with the different styles of love being: eros, mania, ludus, storge, agape, and pragma. Overall, love changes our everyday lives and allows us to grow and survive as human beings. Without love, the health of the world would suffer and it would be a very different place.
New, Interesting, or Unusual Items Learned
It was interesting to learn that there are several ways to kill love by negative and controlling aspects. I didn’t know that these were actually defined as ways to end love.
It was also interesting to see that arranged marriages are still occurring and that the partners involved do begin to fall for one another (for the most part).
Question/Concern
How does the way you are raised impact your ability to love? What influence do your parents have while you are a child and beginning to understand how to self-love?
I too thought the idea of killing love was an interesting one. I also wonder if the individuals who fall in love in their arranged marriages do so because of how they are brought up or if it is from the parents playing a version of matchmaker.
ReplyDeleteI think your question about how you are raised and its impact on your ability to love is an important one. I think that learning to love and trust your family is the first step in learning what a loving relationship encompasses. Family is often a great example of what it means to put others before yourself, tolerate other people's weaknesses and love someone more than you love yourself. I think your parents can show you great love and in return this, siblings, grandparents etc. can give you an example of how to love others.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, I believe families can stunt your ability to love others, if the love exhibited within the family is not an example of healthy love.
-Ali Mosser
Well, terrible parenting definitely leaves an impact. It's well-recorded that parental abuse and neglect causes people to have trouble forming and maintaining relationships in adulthood. Some of them grow to be abusers themselves. It also can lead to heavy psychological problems, inhibiting the person's ability to love themselves. But I guess all of this is a given.
ReplyDelete~~~~Leishanda G.