1) The first part of the chapter discusses liking and loving in general. Then, it moves on to try to give a specific definition of what exactly love is, which is very hard to do. This section also included a discussion of what attracts people to each other. The next topic was about caring, intimacy, and commitment. Then, a few different theories about love and loving were discussed. It included all different theories, some of which were biological, sociological, or psychological. Some specifics were the attachment theory and the wheel theory. Next, specific functions of love and loving were presented, including survival, health, life quality, and fun. Then they talked about actually experiencing love. What happens when love goes wrong was the next section. Followed by how love and couples change over time. Then the chapter concluded with how love is viewed differently in all areas of the world.
2) Some things that I found to be interesting were, first, how the book talked about friends being very important for emotional and physical reasons. Despite this, the book said that many people report not having any close friends. Another thing that stood out was Lee’s styles of loving. I thought this was interesting because it really accurately described almost all kinds of love in relationships.
3) Some questions came to mind while reading, one being about the good description of how friends should be on page 137. Do most people think that their friends fulfill all of the categories mentioned? Another question was that some theories set up “stages” for love, what about when people skip stages, or go out of order? Will it still be a successful relationship?
Natalie LaBarbera
In my opinion (based on your last question) a relationship is only as successful as the partners in it allow it to be. While there may be stages or steps that people are supposed to take, if emotionally two people feel strongly for one another, who's to say the relationship won't last forever?
ReplyDelete1.) Personally I believe that my true friends have these qualities. When you're a teenager, you put up with a lot more because you want to fit in but once you become an adult, you develop deeper friendships and your friends tend to fit in more with these qualities. The bullet on acceptance says that "they tolerate faults and shortcomings instead of trying to change each other." I feel like this is mostly true but then again, if the person is really your friend, they will help you change a shortcoming or work on making it better so that it makes you a better person, not to change you in a negative way.
ReplyDelete2.) I agree with Greg. As long as the two are committed to one another and are determined to make the relationship work, then I don't believe that it will be unsuccessful because they skipped a step or two or went out of order. A relationship is only as good as the people involved and the work they put into it.