Top 10 Reasons for Divorce

Came across an article that listed the top 10 reasons for divorce. They go in this order:
10. Difference in priorities and expectations
9. Addiction
8.Child-rearing issues
7. Religious strains
6. Boredom in Marriage
5. Sexual Incompatibility
4. Financial Issues
3. Abuse
2. Communication Breakdowns
1. Marital Infidelity

Priorities in a marriage is a big issue along with the rest of the issues. With everyone being a unique individual people's priorities will never align. When you are married you must meet halfway with your partner so that you will both be happier. Also priority comes with family and commitment to your marriage. If you place a priority over your family or marriage then that will quickly lead to divorce.

Drug addiction or alcohol addiction really need no explanation. Drugs and alcohol do not mix well with family and marriage. It destroys you as a person first and then that change will destroy your family and marriage. Drug addicts will do ANYTHING to get their next fix even if it means hurting someone close to them like family. Alcohol will cause you to act out of character and can even lead to physical abuse.

Child-rearing issues is a silent killer to marriages. It goes along the lines with priorities because this is one main priority that needs to be distributed equally. Many couples get into arguments about whose turn it is to change a diaper or pick a child up from school. The thing couples just need to do for this one is to write down the responsibilities and distribute them equally.

Religion in my opinion should not be this high on the list. I feel that this is something that should have been established before you get married. This is a topic that is discussed on the first couple of dates.

Boredom of the marriage is something that cannot be fixed sometimes. Some people try to rekindle that flame but it does not work. Couple from distant and disinterested in each other. When you become bored with someone, you do not want to be around them anymore so it's no reason to hold on. If you want to hang on then try new things that you haven't done as a couple.

Sexual incompatibility is a huge problem. Sex is a big part of marriage because you will be having sex with that person the rest of your life. Usually couples are open with each other to resolve the problem but some people indulge in infidelity which ultimately result in divorce. My advice is to go to the sex store and try new things even if it is uncomfortable.

Financial Issues is a big thriller because everyone wants to be financially stable. It can be one person making all the income or it being split but when the problems kick in, then it will lead to divorce. If a woman makes more than her husband then her husband may feel a certain way that can lead to a breakdown in the marriage. When a man is the primary income source then the woman could feel as though where is her contribution especially if the child-rearing responsibilities is split down the middle.

Abuse is a great deal. You have mental and physical abuse. Neither is worse than the other even though physical abuse appears to be worse. When you mentally abuse a person then you are lowering their self-esteem. Physical abuse just makes a person feel like a slave and build fear in a person. My blog on Domestic Violence will explain the result of Abuse.

Communication breakdowns is one of those things that lead to misunderstanding. People think that when you argue a lot then that means bad communication but it doesn't. People that argue just stand their ground and at the end come to an agreement. When you don't argue then you are not voicing what you feel and everything looks cool but it is not. Communication is key to a successful relationship.

Infidelity needs not to be explained. It is clearly obvious why this is at the top of the divorce list.

Question: What do you feel is the top ten reasons for divorce?